Why fans shouldn’t try to be refs

We all feel we would make better calls than the actual refs. They are blind. We see everything. They are biased. We are completely fair. But this guy decided to take it to a whole different level.

Ok, I agree. He was indeed a “knucklehead”, but boy, was he convincing!

As for the brawl, I think brawls in football are incredibly silly. Fully padded, helmets, and you’re going to try to bare knuckle punch the guy? It always just looks like a bunch of guys running around, playing tag or keep-away or something.

Good thing the infamously angry Mike Stoops is no longer the Arizona coach. I  think this brawl would have made him actually explode.

 

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For the most part, I’m sick of super-hero movies

But THIS one looks awesome!

What would life be like without the Internet?

The year was 1994. I was sitting in my dad’s office, and he was explaining to me an interesting new concept, “The Internet.”

I distinctly remember him saying something like, “it is just endless access to information. There are countless pages out there, some of them nonsense, some of them true and informative. Be careful, you can waste a lot of time out there.”

Here I was,  a freshman in college, interested in nothing but girls, already thinking that college–by itself, was overrun with “information”. Why would I want more access to information? That literally seemed like the most useless, pointless invention ever. It felt like it was the computer nerd’s chance to move the library to their home computer, without the interesting fiction books.  So I remember thinking What in the world would I ever use that for? I already have an encyclopedia, and I don’t ever use that. And I go to class for “information” This new internet idea seems pretty pointless.

Well, 17 years have passed, and boy have I been proven wrong. I use it every day.  I honestly can’t imagine life without it. Just today I was reminded of one of the crowning achievements of the Internet, to provide us with content such as this:

Go on, thank me. But my point is proven. The Internet is completely necessary part of life. I was foolish for ever thinking anything different.

For another first look at the Internet, look back at this video of the Today Show:

What do you remember when you first heard about the Internet?

Joking with customers always pays off

I don’t know of a single profession where it wouldn’t help your customer interaction to have a little fun with them. EVERYONE likes to be entertained, and everyone could use a break from the norm. And quite frankly, the norm is very very boring.

So if you are a salesman, show your sense of humor. Make your customers laugh. When you are funny, it shows you are comfortable. If you are comfortable, it means you are confident about your product, and if you are confident about your product, it must be a GOOD product, and worth buying. Your sales will go up if you can have some fun with your customers.

Same goes for an auto mechanic. This can be a very intense situation. But if you joke around a little, bring some levity into the interaction, it will go a long way to increase loyalty. A good sense of humor createts closeness, trust, and understanding.

So when all else fails, joke with your customers. It’ll pay off.

My acceptance of being average

I have the opinion that everyone comes to the crashing conclusion at some point in their life that they are an ordinary, average person.  It’s that realization that even though you’ve been told you are going to be special, and achieve great things, and are uniquely special– you might just go through life with an average house, an average job,  an average build, and average intellect.

This is something I’ve been thinking about lately. I think after reading countless volumes of self-help books, coupled with my view of our divine potential, and added to the fact that purposely chosen things in life that would give me the most accolades–I think I have held onto this belief that my true potential is this triathlon running, best selling novel writing, top sales producing, spiritually guided/wisdom spouting father and husband–the guy everyone admires, and part of the couple that everyone wants to emulate.

The problem is, I’m not that guy. I’ve run A triathlon (one of those baby ones), I’ve written countless journal entries and shot stories and rarely finish them,  I’m currently in a funk in my sales job, and I rarely seek after things of a spiritual nature. So when I compare that to the image of what I SHOULD be, I feel like a disappointment.

Then after I’ve sufficiently punished myself, I start worrying about what others think, and if I’m letting anyone down. My boss. My wife. This has been compounded by the fact that I have a son now–who one day will realize that his dad is a salesman with back pain and barely average athletic ability. Will he look up to me?

So I thought I’d examine this collision which occurs so much for many of us–the realization that even though you may be unique, you may be just a normal, average person.

One way to look at it, is according to Brad Pitt’s character, Tyler Durden from Fight Club (Must read, if you can handle the language):

“Man, I see in fight club the strongest and smartest men who’ve ever lived. I see all this potential, and I see squandering. —- damn it, an entire generation pumping gas, waiting tables; slaves with white collars. Advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy — we don’t need. We’re the middle children of history, man. No purpose or place. We have no Great War. No Great Depression. Our Great War’s a spiritual war… our Great Depression is our lives. We’ve all been raised on television to believe that one day we’d all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars. But we won’t. And we’re slowly learning that fact. And we’re very, very pissed off. ”

That’s one way to look at it. The media has told us what our life SHOULD be. So when it turns out we don’t live in a fancy house, have a fancy car, we get pissed off about it.

But let’s look at another perspective, by the total other end of the spectrum, former President and Prophet of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter day Saints, Gordon B. Hinckley:

“Anyone who imagines that bliss is normal is going to waste a lot of time running around shouting that he’s been robbed. The fact is that most putts don’t drop, most beef is tough, most children grow up to just be people, most successful marriages require a high degree of mutual toleration, most jobs are more often dull than otherwise. Life is like an old time rail journey…delays…sidetracks, smoke, dust, cinders and jolts, interspersed only occasionally by beautiful vistas and thrilling burst of speed. The trick is to thank the Lord for letting you have the ride.”
― Gordon B. Hinckley

So I guess I’ve had a bit of an epiphany. We’re all average. We’re all normal. But that has to be also reconciled with what is our infinite potential. So far, everything I have read, is that most self-help literature focuses on a very inward-centric way of improvement–when what we really need is to look to how we can help others. Essentially, as said in Luke 17:33 “Whosoever shall seek to save his life shall lose it; and whosoever shall lose his life shall preserve it”.

We don’t achieve a very high potential by focusing inward, and focusing on our shortcomings. That just sends us into the downward spiral of internal fault finding and misery.

Another quote by President Hinckley:

“Generally speaking, the most miserable people I know are those who are obsessed with themselves; the happiest people I know are those who lose themselves in the service of others…By and large, I have come to see that if we complain about life, it is because we are thinking only of ourselves.”
― Gordon B. Hinckley

And another, which focuses on the antidote for worry, anxiety, and fretting over not living up to expectations:

“The best antidote I know for worry is work. The best cure for weariness is the challenge of helping someone who is even more tired. One of the great ironies of life is this: He or she who serves almost always benefits more than he or she who is served.”
― Gordon B. Hinckley

My take? I need to relax, and just accept the fact that I’m an average guy, and stop holding myself to this external standard. Once I accept that, then I focus on helping others. Reaching out to others. That, along with just trying just a little more, standing just a little higher, will I think make a huge difference.

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